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TheLove & Hip Hop: New Yorkalum tells PEOPLE in an exclusive conversation that when she started having stomach cramps that morning, she didn’t think much of it. Ali just assumed she was experiencing normal side effects, as she was over halfway through her pregnancy.

But her pain only got worse as the day went on, and finally, the reality star knew she couldn’t ignore it anymore.

“I called my husband and he rushed home,” she tells PEOPLE. “The ambulance came and they took me to the hospital. That’s when they told me that my cervix was completely open and that my water had broken.”

Just 20 weeks along — and not at all prepared — Ali was forced into labor.

“When you’repregnant with your first child, it’s a whole mental thing just knowing that you’re going to deliver,” she tells PEOPLE. “Every day you count down and see [your due date] getting closer and closer. At five months, I hadn’t even come to the realization that it was going to happen. It was the worst experience of my life.”

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“Our bond was so strong. Maybe because God knew I would never be able to experience it … I just felt so connected to her,” she shares.

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In the wake of the tragedy, the reality star says she has received countless messages fromwomen who lived through similar experiences. She has found comfort in their stories, and says the support she has received from friends and family is invaluable.

“I actually haven’t heard from her but I don’t have any expectations, nor do I think she is in any way expected to reach out to me during this time,” Ali says of Remy. “It would be ridiculous to even think that. That’s a buried relationship. I truly mean that respectfully.”

source: people.com